We all live with phantom rules. Those unspoken, internal guidelines that lead us to make certain choices, move us forward or hold us in place. Some were folded into our psyche based on what we’ve observed, heard, assumed.
Assumptions play a big role in phantom rules. Are yours empowering you? I encourage you to bring them into the light. Name them. Which ones are working for you? Which are weighing you down? Think back to what set them in motion. Is it valid today?
Here are some examples to get you started connecting with yours:
I can (or can’t) do this…
To fit in, I must…
To be successful, I must…
This is what “they” (manager, peer, family member, friends) expect…
This would be taboo…
If one (or more) is shackling your thinking, what new rule could you adopt to replace it?
