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Refuel quietly

The house is quiet. I’ve cleared the decks. I’ll get a cup of hot water in a minute. The heat is soothing to my brain, my body. I am blessed to have quiet time to focus on this writing. You’ve read the first three parts of the series: Listen Thoughtfully, Question Deeply, Develop Mindfully, and

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Develop mindfully

This is #3 in my four-part series on four pillars of excellent leadership: Listen Thoughtfully, Question Deeply, Develop Mindfully, Refuel Quietly. Develop mindfully is a deep topic to cover in a short message. But here we go… Develop mindfully is what you do when you intentionally stretch your thinking about what you want. You choose

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Question deeply

This is #2 in a series on four pillars of exceptional leadership: listen thoughtfully, question deeply, develop mindfully, refuel quietly. Many leaders who are introverts do these naturally and well. What does it mean to question deeply?When we want to know more about a subject or what is behind someone’s thinking, we ask questions to

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What listening can do

Today’s message is the first in a series. You may have noticed that I’ve recently added at the bottom of my messages that I coach leaders who listen thoughtfully, question deeply, develop mindfully, refuel quietly – or want to. I thought it would be helpful to delve into those four key leadership attributes in the

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What are you role modeling?

Every day in every way you are role modeling. Whether you think anyone is paying attention or not. Whether you’re being intentional about what you’re doing or not.  “Erica” said she’s being more intentional about NOT attending meetings. She was going, as a courtesy, to every meeting she was invited to, even when she didn’t

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I didn’t get the gig

You know what it feels like when you sense that something you said is not what people at the table wanted to hear? That happened to me recently. I was being interviewed for a coaching gig for a director who needed to change some behaviors. “I’m not a coach who makes a practice of telling

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From feeling broken to being strong

Melanie grew in many ways in the last 20 years at her company. But her growth in the last year, and particularly the last six months was, to quote her, “beyond description”. When I met Melanie, she was polite, reserved, obviously talented with a list of accomplishments in her bio. Throughout the time I have

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Habits strengthen us

I love the vivid picture Ziglar creates as he describes the creation of a habit: Habit is a cable. We weave a thread of it each day until it becomes too strong to break.Then the strength of that habit cable takes us to the top or ties us to the bottom,depending on whether it is

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Help people think better

John walked into his office with his normally erect shoulders slumped, head shaking as if saying, “I can’t believe it.” I asked what happened. He said Ward, his Senior VP, had been using the dripping water method in their last few meetings and he’d missed it. Today Ward told him exactly what he wanted fixed,

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