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Velvet rut

Now that we’re in the second half of 2019, it’s a good time to check in and ask: Are you doing what you’ve said to yourself you really want to do? Or, are you in a “velvet rut”?  A velvet rut is a somewhat comfy place. It’s familiar. It’s where you’ve been for a while, successfully

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Your phantom rules

We go through life with phantom rules… underlying guidelines that steer our decision making, form our opinions. Often, we make up these rules to survive and thrive. Some we adopt from others’ words, tone of voice, attitudes and actions. They are silent thoughts, rarely spoken. Do they serve us well? Are they good for us?

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Who’s barking?

The other night I heard a podcaster apologize for her dog barking in the background. She said he’s 16, blind and partially deaf. He was a rescue years ago and her family loves him dearly. Can’t bear to part with him. He barks sometimes because he gets confused or wants to know where they are.

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Little by little

I started reading an article about procrastination. The clever writing style and content were sucking me in when my inner voice interrupted: Is this what you should be doing NOW? Don’t you have a meeting to get ready for? You can read this later. Stop procrastinating! Sound familiar? How often do you put off doing something

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Cozy

When my husband said we were going to move the furniture from my office and the Florida Room into the living room/dining room for our three-month renovation, I wondered how that was going to work. He is an ace at figuring out spaces, so I knew his plan would fit, but I wondered how crowded

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What are you known for?

When I asked “Jeanne” what her brand is, she said without hesitation, “I get shit done.” Now she does it with people. In years past, she’d mow down anyone in her way to achieve her goals. A respected and recognized director in a global company, Jeanne learned by reflecting on what worked and didn’t as a leader. It became

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They didn’t see the same thing

I bet my sister and this cowboy would describe what they saw happening in the street quite differently. Each of us has a unique lens that shifts and focuses every day depending on our experiences and self-talk. Keep that in mind as you interact with others today. Their lens may have shifted in ways yours

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Dreading that call

Pauli wanted to do it, intentionally scheduled it, but wasn’t looking forward to it. It was a “how are we doing” call with her new manager after more than three months working together. Her manager was preparing for company-wide succession planning meetings with upper levels, and Pauli wanted to be included in those conversations in

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Whose role is it?

Whose job is it to role-model clear, consistent, dependable, honest communication? Yours or your manager’s? No matter your level, it’s absolutely your role to be the best communicator you can be. That includes learning what is important to your manager, listening for clues to what they value, what they may be dealing with, if they

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Refuel quietly

The house is quiet. I’ve cleared the decks. I’ll get a cup of hot water in a minute. The heat is soothing to my brain, my body. I am blessed to have quiet time to focus on this writing. You’ve read the first three parts of the series: Listen Thoughtfully, Question Deeply, Develop Mindfully, and

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