“When you speak ill of another to anyone else, it may temporarily bond you to that other person, but it creates a lasting impression in the other that you are the kind of person who gossips negatively about others. That other person will always be wondering – even if unconsciously – when will you turn that verbal poison against them. It will erode their sense of deep trust in you.” *
I know this to be true because my trust in someone eroded because they often talk about others, freely stating what they consider to be the good and the bad, often spiced with exaggeration. I learned that often what this person says is not totally accurate. It made me wary of opening up to her because I don’t know where what I say will be repeated and how it will be adjusted depending on her audience.
Remember the next time you feel the urge to say something about someone else, your words usually say a lot more about you than them.
*The Success Principles, How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield
