A friend told me that my message about “Tell me more” has helped him in many awkward conversations, so I’m sending it to you today. The last time was November 2023, yet I think it’s quite timely now.
As you talk with friends and family at gatherings this holiday season, we all know that certain topics are better left untouched. Here is something to try, especially if you want to get off a topic someone is pursuing.
Really listen to what they’re saying. Pick up on something they’ve said that can take the conversation down a different path.
As you listen carefully, notice what they or someone else added as a sidebar, or mentioned as part of a description, or maybe glossed over. Use it as an opportunity to say, “You said… Tell me (us) more about that.”
“Tell me more…” can defuse a situation. The person gets to talk more, and you may learn something.
If there is something you remember from years ago that someone said or did that stuck with you in a good way, bring it up. Tell them why you remember it and the impact it had. You may be surprised at where that conversation might go.
I’ll be thinking of you during this week of Thanks Giving. Your willingness to stretch and grow is what makes you the special person you are.
