Take a deep breath. That’s the advice typically given when someone is stressed about something.
But, taking a deep breath doesn’t work for Noelle. When she’s presenting or in a difficult situation and feeling stressed, she said, “My chest is tight, and I can feel myself getting emotional. I can’t stop and take a deep breath because it’s visible, and I don’t have the time, especially if all eyes are on me.”
What could she do instead?
I asked her to think of a mental picture that is calming. She thought for a minute. “A swan, a beautiful, graceful, strong swan.” Her demeanor slowed down. “I can picture the scene. Smooth on the surface, paddling under the water.”
She smiled, “I like that. It feels good picturing it. I can bring it to mind in an instant.”
I encouraged her to bring it to mind throughout the day, not to wait for a difficult situation. By practicing, it will be immediately available whenever needed.
What mental image would bring you a sense of calm whenever you bring it to mind?
