What a week it’s been. Whether you’re working virtually, or your work requires you on site, or your job has been put on hold, my heart is with you. Those I’ve heard from directly say everyone is doing the best they can, although there’s quite a swing in what ‘best’ means.
For some, working virtually 100% is an extension of what they’ve always done, for others it’s a new experience. For many, juggling with family also at home – all the time – let’s just say, it’s a big change for all.
One person said: Shared pain lessens. Shared joy increases. Right now, more than ever, it’s important to encourage sharing.
With that in mind, I’d like to share with you what one leader did with their team meeting.
After welcoming everyone, before diving into the agenda, the leader asked everyone to say what they were feeling – in one word. At first it was silent. A few said they were OK. Then one said the one word for what she was feeling was “grief.” People around the room nodded. “Yeah, that nails it for me,” someone said. Others agreed.
“Let’s talk about what that means to you” the leader said to all of them. They shared their sense of loss over their freedom to go and come as always, their loss of normal routines, their morning coffee on the road, quiet at home during the day. They agreed they’re grieving for those struggling with the virus, those who’ve lost the struggle and for the many who work daily in high-risk environments. Encouraging the team to share their feelings and realize they’re experiencing this together opened up a meaningful conversation.
Once the team had expressed and hopefully eased some pain, the leader flipped the conversation. “How can I help? Or, how can WE help?”
A few had specific asks, others appreciated the opportunity to talk openly with the group. Agreements were made. Some will think about it and get back with the group.
The leader could have left it there. But there was more that could be done.
“I don’t want you to say anything right away. Just think about this question. What are you grateful for that you haven’t said out loud?” He waited 10 seconds, then said: “Let’s start by hearing from someone who hasn’t spoken much.”
The responses around the room were heartfelt. Teammates supported those who’d been quieter than the rest and those who choked up. Hearing what each one was grateful for connected the team even further.
When they dove into the agenda, the commitment to work together was palpable with each more present and in touch with themselves, each other and their shared goals.
How are you feeling? What are you grateful for today? Drop me a note and share anything you care to.
