Pay attention to your thought pings. Those momentary mental flashes of clear, direct thought — a person’s name, an action, a decision. I act on some of mine pretty quickly but wait on others. Some have to hit me a number of times before I know it’s time to do something about it.
My thought pings have served me well over the years. I don’t seek them. They come to me when least expected. I was watching TV one evening and “Brenda” popped into my mind, again. This time I felt compelled to grab my iPad and jot her a quick email letting her know I was thinking about her and wondering what happened with the interview panel she had experienced weeks before. She wrote back within the hour saying my timing was impeccable. She had just received the job offer that evening and was going through the terms of agreement when my message arrived. Wow. Talk about timing.
I’ve known Brenda for more than 20 years, ever since I hired her. Through numerous job changes, we’ve stayed in touch a few times a year. She knows I’m here for her if she needs a confidential conversation (or email) to talk about a challenge she’s facing.
I’ve talked to many people who say they used to have someone they knew, liked, trusted who would give them candid, thoughtful feedback. But that person had moved on or retired and they lost touch. Really? I believe it’s never too late. We are all connected for a reason. When someone you know, like, trust moves on (or you do), it doesn’t mean they have totally forgotten you. If they come to mind at times, if you get thought pings with their name or face, I encourage you to reach out. I bet they would be thrilled to hear from you. Who knows where it may lead.
I’ve been writing to you each week this month because it’s my way of letting you know I care about you and your growth, and I want the best for you. Now it’s your turn — go ahead, reach out to someone you haven’t been in touch with in a while. See what happens.