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He was a strong Quiet Leader

I stood on the back of the fast ferry to Nantucket for an hour in each direction, the wind whipping my hair in all directions. My travel mates preferred the air conditioned comfort inside. For me, the ocean air and alone time were comfort.    Something in my inner core responds to being near the water. Ocean, lake, river, stream, heck,

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What hijacks your thinking

Negative assumptions. We all make them. When I ask people around the world if they make assumptions, they always say yes, every day. When I ask if their assumptions are mostly positive or negative, their immediate response is ‘negative.’ It’s universal. These assumptions are spontaneous thoughts that minimize or put down our ideas. They lock

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Change the way you look at things

She (I’ll call her Naomi) came to the Mastermind call angry about a situation. She needed to talk it out. The situation involved a leader who is dismissive of Naomi and her department, except when he needs something. She was dreading a meeting at HQ in a couple of days because he had not collaborated

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Mistakes happen

“You don’t make mistakes, mistakes make you.” This statement hit me as if it were meant for me. It’s so true. Mistakes raise our awareness. Make us think, question our actions, and decide what we will do differently. They contribute to our growth and strengthen us. For many, mistakes have been a catalyst for change. Some

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Ask different questions

Quiet Leaders listen, consider, reflect. That doesn’t mean they’re not engaged. As Stephen Hawking said, “Quiet people have the loudest minds.” Toward the end of a webinar, the leader asked “What questions do you have?” to the group of more than 100 participants. Crickets. She allowed silence to reign for a bit, then asked again, “What questions do you

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Quiet Leaders have different styles

When asked what is a Quiet Leader, I typically say “Every Quiet Leader is unique, just as you are unique.” Quiet Leaders (QLs) have different styles, personalities, points of view, strengths, interests, levels of outgoingness. Many are reflective, thoughtful before they speak. Others are outgoing, spontaneous. But all QLs have one thing in common: the

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You are a smart donkey

An old story with a current message: Having dirt dumped on you can get you out of a tight spot. A farmer’s donkey fell into a well. The farmer did everything he could to figure out how to lift it out, but there was no way. The donkey was down too deep and his equipment was unable to lift that much weight.

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Introverts are outgoing, too

  “There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.” Carl Jung   I continue to meet introverts who extrovert themselves to thrive in their workplace. These Quiet Leaders (QLs) are quiet at their core, yet speak up, take action, successfully lead teams and

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Work with people you don’t like

When I was in Beijing last month, the participants in my program (all women) had the opportunity to ask a panel of directors (all women) any questions they wanted that would be of value to the group. The group consisted of managers and high level individual contributors with potential to be future leaders at this

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