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Make it team work not fear work

A coaching client (Molly) asked, “What do you do when one of your staff does not keep you in the loop?” One of hers had finished a project requested by the VP (Molly’s manager) and sent it to the VP without copying Molly or letting her know it was completed. The staffer thought Molly was

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How to build (and re-build) trust

Trust is at the core of every good work environment. When you can trust that you will be treated with respect, that you will have opportunities to express your thoughts and ideas without being cut off or minimized, that you will not be judged or talked about inappropriately because of how you look or sound,

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My cousin Emma

I am very happy for my 14-year-old cousin, Emma. As a high school freshman, she is learning a lot about herself by expanding her comfort zone, doing something she did not want to do. She joined the swim team. Emma is not competitive and has preferred for years the individuality of martial arts training. But

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What do you see yourself doing?

This is so true: What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen. * Every one of us longs to get better at something or unleash something we carry within. For you,

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It’s All In How You View It

Jack and I are headed home from our drive across the U.S., something we’ve wanted to do for decades. In January, we decided this was the year to do it. As we planned this trip, we were surprised at how many people said they would not do it. They viewed driving thousands of miles as

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I said YES!

I was in a Thursday afternoon meeting when my phone vibrated. A text from a good friend said: “Call me asap.” ‘Sylvia’ had pneumonia, her doctor would not let her fly, and she had two back-to-back two-day programs to facilitate the following week in London. Her question: “Could you do it for me?” What an

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What Hill Are You Facing?

Years ago I shared this finding. When I read it again recently, I thought you’d appreciate reading it, too. “In a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, researchers asked participants to stand at the base of a steep hill and estimate how tough it would be to climb. Those standing with a

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Your Own Voice is Vital to Your Success

Last week I shared a powerful West African proverb, “The lion’s story will never be known if the hunter is the one to tell it.” It reminded me of some Quiet Leaders (QLs) who say they don’t like talking about themselves and would rather their results speak for them. Typically, they have no qualms shining

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Who Speaks For You

The lion’s story will never be known if the hunter is the one to tell it. West African proverb. It hit me the first time I read this: Introverts are the lion in this proverb. If we allow our story to be told through someone else’s perspective, the fullest truth of our story can easily

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What My Father Told Me

One day when I was a pre-teen heading home from Rockaway Beach, I accepted a ride with a friend of a friend, a teen driver. This was a risk because my parents had warned me never to get into a car with a driver I didn’t know. I trusted my friend, so I got in.

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